I have one kid. A six year old daughter that I adore. No we don’t plan on having anymore. That was always the plan and it hasn’t changed. And, for some reason, everyone seems to have an opinion about that. And, quite frankly, I get sick of hearing about it. What I do with my uterus really isn’t anyone’s concern. Seriously folks I’m not new to this game. I didn’t have my first until I was 38 so I had a solid decade of “when are you going to have a baby?” already behind me by then. Enough already. This isn’t up for debate or even discussion with anyone but the people that reside in my house. I know that, for the most part, people don’t bring up the subject to be insensitive pricks. I mean come on, we are talking about babies here. People love babies. I get it. But we are also talking about a really personal and private decision and it would just be nice if people stopped and thought about that before they starting throwing these gems around:
When are you going to start working on another?
First off, how do you know we haven’t been working on another? I mean, in our case, we haven’t but you don’t know that. Maybe we have been trying for months or years.
I’m sure your daughter would love a brother or sister!
Maybe she would. Maybe she wouldn’t. Last week she loved tuna and this weeks she hates it…
Aren’t you afraid your daughter is going to end up spoiled since she’s an only child?
Make no mistake here, my daughter is spoiled. But here’s the thing – if we had another child we would have two spoiled kids.
Having two kids really doesn’t cost that much more.
Are you for real? Have you put your kid in any extra curricular activity lately? And can we talk about the cost of daycare?
I know your first baby was “difficult” but that means the next one would be easy.
Do you have some science to back that up? Or are you just using a magic 8 ball? And if that were true does that mean because my pregnancy and labour were pretty smooth my next one would be the worst thing ever?
Two kids are just easier than one. They play with each other.
No thanks. I’ve got enough on my plate that I don’t need to add referee to the mix.
But you’re such good parents you really should have more!
Thank you but no. Would I be as good of a parent as I am now if we threw another child into the mix? I’m not too sure about that. I already feel like I’m stretched pretty thin some days.
Wouldn’t it be nice to have a little boy too?
Sure little boys are awesome. Just like little girls. And they will both drive you bat shit crazy in their own special ways.
If you’re a mom (or dad) of one, are there things people say to you that make you shake your head too?