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Hey Sillies! Vague Booking and Other Passive Aggressive Approaches. - Outside The Box

Hey Sillies! Vague Booking and Other Passive Aggressive Approaches.

Hey Sillies! Vague Booking and Other Passive Aggressive Approaches.

My mother always said “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”  Now, I’d have to call her to clarify but I have a feeling she would also add “and don’t leave anonymous, totally passive aggressive, notes either.”

Passive aggressive behavior is one of my biggest pet peeves.  Now, I’m not completely innocent when it comes to using these tactics.  I’ve done it.  We all do it.  How many times have you begrudgingly agreed to go along with something you really didn’t want to do?  You smile and say “sure” but quietly moan and groan about how much this completely sucks and when someone asks you if everything is ok you plaster on that fake grin, the one that you know everyone else knows is completely fake, and mutter how everything is just hunky dory.

Once again the internet and social media has introduced us to new ways to display our unsavory social behavior.   When someone acts in a way we find insulting or ignorant, some how we think that posting a cryptic tweet or status update about how “some people should do this or not do that.” will solve the problem.  Some people?  Is that what you mean?  No, of course it’s not.  You are talking about someone specific but don’t have the nerve to confront that person directly so you post something vague on the internet hoping they will see it and instantly recognize that you are referring to them.  Is this an effective way of communicating?  Probably not.  But it’s easy and much less confrontational than directly communicating with the person or persons that have offended you.

I do think there are times when passive aggressive behavior is acceptable and maybe even helpful, even if the only benefit is that you release some of the tension that someone has created.  Something  like leaving a note on the windshield of someone’s car thanking them for parking like an idiot is pretty harmless.  It’s when we take the passive aggressive approach towards people or subjects that matter in our lives that we are wasting opportunities to effectively and efficiently deal with a problem.  Those obscure social media remarks are, at best, counter productive.  They don’t really make us feel any better about the situation. They do, however, make us appear childish and woefully incapable of dealing with conflict.

So, the next time someone rubs you the wrong way, before you hit that post button, pull up your big girl/boy pants, take a deep breath and contemplate, just for a moment. Does what you are about to say portray the image that you want your friends, family, followers, sponsors, etc. to see?

This article has 8 comments

  1. this is too funny. I do the same thing sometimes… Well, maybe minus the note such as above. I say things to my husband in a nice way but he gets the sarcasm/annoyance. Good one!

  2. Well said! I always roll my eyes when people have "cryptic" status updates like that. It's true- it only makes them look bad…I'd rather somebody just be aggressive than passive aggressive, because at least all the cards are out on the table that way.

  3. Yes! I love this post. I think everyone on Facebook should be sent the link. I swear, my wall is full of "People need to quit doing this" or whatever. It's so annoying that I don't read my wall much anymore. If you have a problem, take it to that person directly! I think the ones who complain cryptically make themselves look more like fools than the ones they are trying to "call out".

  4. I love this note it made me smile. I think social media is wonderful but you are right some people use it to be nasty. I have had problems with people using facebook to say things that really should have been said face to face. I do love to blog so the internet is great at times. I am a new follower and hope you will come visit me

  5. Yeah, I occasionally need to pull up my big girl pants too. I've realized my behavior with those passive aggressive posts recently. Its not flattering at all. My best approach is to choose not to see certain people in my news feed anymore as to not get agitated anymore and post my childish feelings. It can get pretty petty and stupid. I totally realize how stupid it is.

  6. I have vented about people on fb before, but 99% of the time, it's not about anyone on my friends list. I don't put names on my status because of the legal issues that may come along with that. And most of the times, it's after I've already tried to address the issue with the person I'm talking about. However, I don't post statuses like that very often. I have a "vent" blog online that no one really reads where I rant about things that drive me crazy lol. It prevents unnecessary drama on fb lol.

  7. Journeysof TheZoo
    Tuesday 29 July 2014, 2:05 pm

    Well, I definitely hope that my followers know that I know what day of the week it is. Is that too passive aggressive?

    Besos, Sarah

  8. Ha! This is sooo truthful.  I do not like vague statuses.  Either say it or zip it.  No in between!  Glad I came across this post. 🙂
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