In my daily readings of various blogs, social media posts, “news” (I use the term loosely) articles, etc. I have noticed a disturbing trend lately. Mom bashing. Perhaps it was always there and I just neglected to see it because I wasn’t a mother. In any case, it is there and it seems to be escalating.
There have been a few stories that have hit the press lately regarding celebrity moms. January Jones apparently had her daughter’s placenta made into capsules to eat. Alicia Silverstone released a video of herself prechewing her baby’s food and then feeding it to her from her mouth. Both of these stories sensationalized and met with disgust by the media and public. Jessica Simpson has been the subject of ridicule because she (gasp!) is the size of a pregnant woman – oh wait she IS pregnant (or rather was, I believe she had a baby girl yesterday).
These are just a few examples. We hear a lot about celebrity mom’s because, well they are celebrities, but mom bashing is not exclusive to the rich and/or famous. Want to test it out? Make a post somewhere, anywhere, about co-sleeping. Nothing brings out the trash talk quicker or fiercer than the subject of sharing a bed. I was stunned the first time I saw this. The insults and accusations I’ve seen hurled at co-sleeping mom’s is shocking. Of course breastfeeding always stirs up reactions too. If you breast feed in public you are a heathen, but if you don’t breast feed at all you are a selfish, unfit mother.
Why do we do this to each other? I have always known that nobody is harder on women than other women but I, naively, assumed that mothers would be a little more supportive of one another. Mothering is not a competition. This is the one area that we should be hanging up the gloves and not be concerned about outdoing someone else. Being a parent is hard work. It can be mentally, emotionally and physically exhausting. If there is anytime we need support in our lives it is now.
I don’t care if you lost all your pregnancy weight in 2 days, your baby slept through the night at 2 weeks and walked at 9 nine months or you bottle feed, co-sleep and are still sporting some of those baby pounds. If you need support I am there for you. I might not agree with every decision you make but I will respect every decision you make. As long as you are raising your children in a healthy home I will not criticize or belittle you for the choices you make for you and your family. What works for one may not work for the other. This is the kind of person I want to be, it is the kind of parent I want to be and it is how I want to raise my daughter.